Understanding is the protection.

A player reads a short, invented situation and sorts it into one of three categories: respectful, inappropriate or concerning, or harassment and abuse. The middle category is the point. Material that offers only “abuse” or “fine” teaches nothing about the ground in between, which is where most of it happens.

Every answer is explained — and the explanation says why the situation is that category rather than the one beside it, and what would change it.

A man keeps staring at a woman's chest throughout a conversation. Yellow, because it is sexual, deliberate and makes her feel like an object rather than a person. It is not Red because there is no touching, no threat, no authority over her, and she can walk away. It becomes Red if he follows her, touches her, or is her boss.

Ninety situations across six levels and three age groups. A level is five situations, and all five must be right to move on. Situations are drawn from Nigerian homes, schools, universities, workplaces, transport, markets, places of worship, dating and social media. Every name and event is invented.

The game currently covers conduct in public, at work, in schools and in relationships. Abuse within families, violence used as control, and personal safety are not yet part of it.

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We name these beliefs plainly and explain why they are wrong — not by lecturing, but by showing the situation and letting the reasoning speak. Among them:

• That a wife cannot refuse her husband. Marriage is not permanent consent. Every person keeps the right to refuse, every time.
• That a girl's clothing or body invites what happens to her. Responsibility lies only with the person who chooses to cause harm — never with what the other person wore, said or did.
• That a boy or man cannot be abused, or that it does him no harm. Abuse is defined by the act, not by the gender of the person harmed.
• That a developing body means a child is now available, or is "doing something". Bodies develop on their own timetable, and it says nothing about a child's conduct or availability.
• That a girl who reaches puberty early is promiscuous. Early development is biology. It carries no meaning about behaviour, and treating it as if it does puts children in danger.
• That someone who did not report at once must be lying. Silence after harm is normal, and usually comes from fear, shame or dependence on the person responsible.
• That a person who accepted a gift, a lift or a drink has agreed to more. Consent is specific and can be withdrawn at any moment. Nothing is implied by accepting hospitality.
• That harassment is a compliment a woman should take gracefully. Unwanted sexual attention is not flattery, and being expected to smile through it is part of the harm.
• That what happens inside a family is a private matter to be settled at home. Abuse is not a domestic disagreement, and secrecy is what allows it to continue.
• That a child must always obey an adult, including in secret. No adult needs a child to keep secrets from parents or teachers. That demand is itself a warning sign.
• That a man who provides for a woman is owed sex. Support, money or a promotion are never a price a person can be made to pay with their body.
• That "boys will be boys" excuses how they treat girls. Behaviour that harms others is a choice, and treating it as inevitable teaches boys that it is.
• That a real man disciplines his wife, or that a beating is a sign of love. Violence is not care and not correction. It is abuse, whatever name it is given at home.

Every one of these appears in the game as a situation to think through, with an explanation that leaves no room to guess. Education that only says “respect women” changes nothing. Education that shows exactly why a specific belief is false can change how a person acts.

Every answer is recorded anonymously — and we record which answer was chosen, not only whether it was right. Someone who calls a supervisor's demand “inappropriate” believes something different from someone who calls it “respectful”, and the two need different responses. An error rate cannot tell them apart.

Players may tell us their age range, gender, state and education if they wish. From the state we derive the geopolitical zone. That lets us answer questions worth asking:

• Which situations do people misjudge most, and in which direction?
• Where are the gaps between women and men widest, and on which topics?
• Does understanding of harmful beliefs shift with education, or hold firm regardless?
• Does accuracy improve when the same person plays again?

We do not ask anyone about their own experience of abuse, and we do not collect names, phone numbers or email addresses.

We work with organisations, institutions and communities that want prevention education their people will actually use, and we make our findings available to others working on the same problem.

Our material is free. There is no charge to play, nothing to install, and no adverts.

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